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“Our Father, Who art in Heaven

Hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come 

Thy will be done on Earth as it is in 

Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread and forgive 

Us our trespasses as we forgive those who 

trespass against us. Lead us not into 

Temptation but deliver us from evil. 

For thine is the kingdom. And the power 

And the glory, forever and ever. Amen.”

I don’t know about you but today many prayers were needed and even more should be said. We woke this morning to a tragic, massive shooting in Las Vegas. Tragedy had struck on our home land and worst of all it was by a fellow American. This has shaken us to the very core and it should. We are the “land of the free and the home of the brave”, but lately many of us have forgotten that. I refuse to point fingers at who is at fault because really we all are.

We preach about kindness, loving one another and peace but yet so many times do the opposite. We hide behind our screens and tear each other down when someone doesn’t agree with what we say. We are offended by anything and everything and some where in all our virtual ness and social media hype we lost touch with one another.

My plea: 

Don’t preach kindness…Be kind.

Don’t speak about love…show love, Be love.

Don’t be the problem…Be the solution.

Don’t hide behind your screen…look up, see who and what is around you and Be in the moment.

Be the good you want to see in this world. Be the change.

As we pray for Vegas…I extend that to say, pray for each other, pray for America, and pray for the world. 

💙God Bless America and God Bless You.❤️

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The Good News

Growing up I remember dad always read the newspaper, watched the news or listened to the news and mom never did. She would rather ask us kids how our days were, how work had gone with dad and would talk on the phone with the neighbors about upcoming events, how they were and took in the good.

I couldn’t help but think at the time, as I would sometimes discuss the happenings of the world with my dad, why mom didn’t want to talk about it? One day I asked, her response was simple, she didn’t need to hear about all the bad that’s happening, she’d rather hear about the good. Thinking at the time that seems a little naive I think now, she had a point. 

Now a days you can’t even turn to your phone without being alerted on the next horrible or devastating news story. After awhile they start to take a toll on a person, on their heart…others appear to be numb to it, while others argue why they’re right and bully the next person as though they aren’t part of the problem, because face it in a way we are all a part of it whether we like it or not.

Believe it or not growing up I always found the news fascinating. The world of media amazed me and they were the first to let you know the big story. It’s part of why I got into radio to begin with. When something big happens, good or bad, I want to be one of the first to inform you. However, what I miss about journalism these days, is the integrity there once was.

When breaking a story, reporters had to have a lead and that lead had to be willing to share who they were and they weren’t just “some source” being quoted. Today “someone who knows someone, who knows someone said this is what happened” and that’s your story? Sounds more like to me we are all just reading or listening to a conversation that has been muddled because it’s like it was told through a game of telephone. What happened to giving the actual facts? 

So I have drawn the conclusion that I’ve become a little more like my mother, as in I don’t always watch the news or read what’s happening because the bad is only getting worse and the facts are becoming more scarce. Not that I can avoid it all, I still need to know what’s happening but for the most part…when I go reading or watching the news these days I search for the good one, because the good will always have the source and will always have the facts. 

But also, the good news are the stories we need a few more of because maybe just maybe if we saw or read about a little more good, another person would hear that and be inspired to do good too, and perhaps the chain will continue. 

I’m not saying we are going to change it all over night or ever change it all but shouldn’t we start somewhere? Even if it means starting out small? As the quote, not actually said by Ghandi but has been attributed to him, goes…”Be the change that you wish to see in the world”, but the only way to do that is to stand up and not just be good but do great. I might not have a whole plan worked out but you can be dang sure I’m going to do the best at being good I can each and every day and I hope you do as well! 

The Hopeless Romantic

Another exciting Friday night of watching, what has been dubbed, a chick flick. What can I say they’re my favorite to watch, even though they’re all very similar. Boy meets girl, girl is in love with another boy who she shouldn’t be with, then when she finally realizes that ones a jerk and falls for the other one she finds a way to believe the good guy is a jerk too. However, like any good chick flick she always ends up with the right guy! It’s how it’s supposed to work but does it work in real life?

Call me a hopeless romantic but I do believe in a sense yes life is a little like that. Unlike a movie though, life takes a little while to get to that happy ending. I feel I’ve been waiting on that happy ending for what feels like forever now. Thought I found it a couple times, once there was no doubt in my mind “this was it”, but some how life or I should say God had a different plan. 

I’ll be honest it’s frustrating sometimes, and if you’ve been in the situation you know you’ve caught yourself doubting at times if it’ll ever happen. I’ve even been told by friends and family members that maybe I’m too picky or maybe my standards are too high on what I want in a relationship, or maybe, just maybe, I know what I want and I haven’t met him yet or I have and we don’t know it yet. Listen to me don’t give up hope, actually never give up hope and never let anyone tell you, you should “settle”. 

Be patient. The plan hasn’t completely revealed itself yet, but I believe as should you and that’s what matters most. It was in the Christmas movie “Polar Express” that I heard the words “Seeing isn’t believing, believing is seeing” and I see now that time will help this hopeless romantic find her way, I just need to keep believing, I pray you do too.

Adulting

I’ve been hearing about this adulting deal for awhile and I feel tomorrow is when I will do the most adult thing I’ve done in quite awhile. I’m closing on a condo! This has been a looooong time coming.

Do you remember growing up and they would give you those questions in junior high or high school that would ask you, “Where do you see yourself in 10 years?” I always answered it the same way…by that time I’ll for surely be married, starting a family, living in my dream house, working…you know, grown up stuff. It’s been well past the ten years when I thought that stuff would happen and the ONLY thing I can check off that list in all honesty is that I’m working a job…but it’s a job I love! Life never quite works out the way you thought and honestly that’s okay because I love my life and wouldn’t trade it for anything.

However, tomorrow more of my adulting begins and I check off the BIG buying my own place. But what I am really liking is that it is mine. I have worked hard and saved and looked and found a place that I can 100% say will be mine, I mean once I pay off my mortgage, but that’s neither here nor there right now. The point is, I’m doing it and I couldn’t be more excited!

With that said I feel I have a few people I need to thank. First and foremost I need to thank Melissa Westby of Dakota Plains Realty who not only has been the best real estate agent a person could ask for she’s who I am beyond happy to call more than a friend, she’s like family. She has been with me to find the perfect condo from the get go,  being patient while I looked and always having my best interest at heart, plus knowing me well enough that when this place went on the market that this was perfect! Perfect it was, I think she fell in love with it for me as much as I did. 

But she was amazing in answering my questions, making sure I knew and understood all that went with buying a place and that I was comfortable with everything. She even led me to the other wonderful people I worked with to help with the process. 

Like Wade Vogl with Northwestern Bank who was a dream to work with for getting a home loan.
He was on top of it all, getting paper work done, calling me at anytime of the day to fill me in on every step and explaining everything in terms I understood and explaining it again if I didn’t quite get it yet. Not to mention he found me the absolute best rate and best loan I could possibly ask for. Plus bonus…I’m closing a whole week early, which I am told is pretty unheard of!!

Also during the whole process I had to make sure the place I was getting wasn’t hiding issues that I might not want to deal with, so Melissa of course made sure to recommend the best guy in the biz to do my condo inspection for me, Rick Westby, of River Cities Home Inspection. To give you an idea of how good this guy is, I had my dad come in to view the condo because he’s been in construction for well over 50 years by now and he knows his stuff and can be critical of giving praise but knows a good person when he sees one. He too had nothing but great things to say about Rick, saying that’s a guy I would trust to do my inspection any day, and I did. Rick gave me a thorough run down of what he found that I’d want to look at here and there but felt confident in me purchasing the place and that I’d be happy with it!

Those were my 3 that I needed and trusted to help me through this whole process and I thank God for them all, because with them I found a place that I get to make mine and call home. It’s been a dream for a while now and on Friday, May 5, 2017 at 3:30 pm it’ll become reality. So if ever you need help in your process I would recommend them all again and again and again. 

So this adulting thing, I’m doing it and I’m feeling pretty good about it but know I could not have done it without them so from the bottom of my heart I can not thank you all enough!
Melissa Westby – Dakota Plains Realty 701-212-3925 or melissawesbyrealtor@gmail.com

Wade Vogl – Northwestern Bank 218-359-0672 or wvogl@nwbanks.com

Rick Westby – 701-866-7572 or rick@rivercitieshomeinspection.com 

Make It A Happy One

What makes you happy? What makes you smile? Do that more often.

Have you ever heard a song or watched a TV show or perhaps a movie and you heard a line that just resonates with you. It speaks to you. That happened to me yesterday and believe it or not it was during the animated movie “Rock Dog”. I took a couple of my good friend’s daughters to the movie and the line that has been in my head since I heard it was so simple but true…”This is your life, make it a happy one.”

Let me say that again…

“This is your life make it a happy one.”

I ask you again, what makes you happy? We are surrounded by negativity, hate, separation, deception, sadness and more it seems every where we look. It’s easy to forget our happiness, it’s easy to be brought down.

I’ve been accused of being a little too optimistic at times, but that’s me. I see the good in people, I believe in the best and I trust things will turn out alright. That is just who I am, so I go looking for the good, because finding the good helps to make me happy. There are many things that help to make me happy and I intend to start doing them a little more, because it is my life and why shouldn’t it be happy.

Do you like to sing? Sing louder.

Do you like to read? Make time to read more.

Do you like to exercise? Then keep on doing it and make the time to make it happen, maybe switch up your routine and try something new!

Do you love your friends? Then show them, make time for them. 

Does your faith make you happy? Then share the word.

Do you love your family? Be with them more, tell them you love them.

Whatever good thing makes you happy, do more of it.

“This is your life, make it a happy one”, because why not? 

Do what makes you happy because it is your life, but don’t hate on others who are doing what makes them happy. We are all different, we all have different interests and we are each unique in our own way. Embrace that and enjoy what makes you happy, because you know what, we ALL deserve to be happy, yes including you. 

Here’s To New Adventures

I’ll never forget the day I graduated high school and reading the infamous Dr. Suess book “Oh The Places You Will Go”. It was a gift I had received back then and have often gone back to read during different times in my life when new adventures had presented themselves. Today I was reminded of the feelings that come with the start of a new adventure.

Imagine my surprise when I heard from one of my favorites at my favorite gym Anytime Fitness saying “We need to meet before Wednesday because I have news”. It just so happened I had just changed into my workout clothes right before she sent it so I said I was already on my way I’ll see you soon. Naturally, when you get a text like that all sort of things go through your mind. Keep in mind, however, for this particular situation, it could be a number of things for this person had become someone very special, like the little sister I never had and we shared a lot so it literally. could. be. anything. A sneaking suspicion though had me believe, she was off on a new adventure. Little did I know how right I was.

Let me take it even a step further to how I know little Miss Meghan of who I write about. She’s a spitfire of a woman who I met when she was a cheerleader for NDSU and was coached by another dear friend of mine. From the moment I met her I knew she had to be cool, I mean one, her name was Meghan and two, she had dark hair like me, so that had to be saying something, but it was her similar attitude and free spirit to mine that made our friendship instantaneous. From there I got to know her in other areas of our lives including with the latest when she came to work at Anytime Fitness and even more of a friendship blossomed.

Today Meghan let me know that she had a beyond exciting opportunity presented to her over the weekend and everything escalated quickly and she’s leaving THIS Wednesday already. Then I saw the emotions I remembered having the first time I ever left this area…excitement, nervousness and sadness all wrapped into one. It’s a GIANT step to move away from a place you know as home. It’s an even scarier step when it’s hundreds or even thousands of miles away from the ones you love dearly, your friends, your family, your everything.

But let me tell you this, the adventure you begin when you do step out on your own for the first time, is worth every obstacle that might come your way. Everything we do is for a reason, each path we take has it’s purpose. Had I not moved to Iowa at one point during my life, I wouldn’t be where I am right now, and frankly I love my life and where I am at right now, and I would not have made nearly half the friendships that I hold so dearly to this day, Meghan included.

Trust that the move you make is the right one for you even if it seems scary, because at the end of the day, you always have your loved ones when you need them and you can ALWAYS go back home. But go enjoy the adventure that awaits you while you can, because when  the best opportunity to move to Los Angeles, Hawaii, Reno, Nashville or wherever life may take you, presents itself, you take it without thinking twice and don’t look back, move forward.

This new adventure awaits you and may God bless you every step of the way. But know that “True friends are never apart. Maybe in distance but never in heart.”

Taking A Look Back

Do you remember “The Sunscreen Song” by Baz Luhrmann? The real name of it was “Everybody’s Free (To Wear Sunscreen)” but it came out around 1998 and even though he never really sang, the words of inspiration became a hit that have been probably played over and over again at countless graduation ceremonies since. I had not really thought about it until last weekend when I was hanging with a good girlfriend of mine at Polar Fest in Detroit Lakes where lots of winter activities were taking place but there also happened to be helicopter rides.

Sitting outside on an unusually warm winter day enjoying a beverage and the rarity of the sun, we saw a helicopter land on the frozen lake and she turned to me and said, “should we go on a helicopter ride”? I’d never been on one before and neither had she, we thought this could be a fun adventure. In my one moment of hesitation with should I do this, I had the words of the song pop into my head ” do one thing everyday that scares you” and I with no hesitation walked out on to the ice to get a helicopter ride.

The exhilaration I felt stepping into the helicopter let me know I’d made the right decision. If you ever want a new appreciation of the land, of a frozen lake, of nature really, then take a helicopter ride. Even with there being mainly snow, ice, bare trees and Detroit Lakes Mountain to see  it was beautiful up there, breathtaking really. It was like being in your own little world.


After I had been on that small adventure I started thinking more again about the words of Luhrmann’s song and looked up the lyrics again and the story. Did you know that it was actually written by a Chicago Tribune columnist? Her name is Mary Schmich and the column was titled “Advice, like youth, probably just wasted on the young”. It was an essay she wrote and said she would have given back in 1997 for a commencement speech had she been asked to speak. It was only a year later that director Baz Luhrmann used it on his 1998 album Something for Everybody and it turned into a hit.

In one part of the song it talks about looking back after twenty years have gone by and I realize it’s been twenty years since the essay was written, and I wonder how much of the song has happened to me? Did I heed any advice from it? Does most of it or any of it speak truth? What have I learned in the last twenty years…lets break it down and see.

“Everybody’s Free (To Wear Sunscreen)” Lyrics

Baz Luhrmann

“Ladies and Gentlemen of the class of ’97
Wear Sunscreen.
If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be
it. The long term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by
scientists whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable
than my own meandering experience,
I will dispense this advice, now.”

Part 1 of the advice: Sunscreen might be some of the most solid pieces of advice within this song because it is so true. I wear it everyday, on my face anyway and I have friends who haven’t worn much sunscreen and would tell you now wear it, even if you don’t think you need it.

“Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth;
oh nevermind; you will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they’ve faded.
But trust me, in 20 years you’ll look back at photos of yourself, and recall in a way you can’t grasp now how much possibility lay before
you and how fabulous you really looked,.”

Part 2: I’m not sure I completely agree with this one 100%. I feel that we can grow like a fine wine and just get better with age. But the real bottom line is love you, always love you. Don’t be so hard on yourself no matter what age you are, because loving yourself is key to allowing yourself to love someone and to be loved.

“You are not as fat as you imagine.” (you really aren’t and never let anyone let  you feel bad about yourself and your size. True beauty lies within you, if you want to make a change then do it for you but don’t do it because someone made you feel bad, you are beautiful no matter what)

“Don’t worry about the future; or worry, but know that worrying is as
effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubblegum.
The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind;
the kind that blindside you at 4pm on some idle Tuesday.”

Part 3: There will be a day that you look back and think, oh how I wish I had my junior high, high school problems again, because it was nothing compared to the challenge you face now, but have faith you will get through it, no matter how bad it seems at the moment.
“Do one thing everyday that scares you” (and if it’s not everyday, than at least once a week)

“Sing” (even if it’s just in your car, singing is good for the soul)

“Don’t be reckless with other people’s hearts, don’t put up with people who are reckless with yours.” –You’ll know when you are being reckless with someone’s heart and if you are stop, just trust me on that one. But you might not always know when someone is being reckless with yours, that’s what our friends are for. Often we are so close we are blinded by the truth and we need our friends to help us back, even if it hurts trust them.

“Floss” – Check, something I too am trying to get better at.

Don’t waste your time on jealousy;
sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes you’re behind; the race is long,
and in the end, it’s only with yourself.

-Check, check, check and check. You only got this one life so live it the best way YOU can. 

“Remember the compliments you receive, forget the insults;
if you succeed in doing this, tell me how.” – Those insults can go deep so remember that if you start to throw some out yourself. None of us are perfect.

“Keep your old love letters, throw away your old bank statements.” –Now a days letters might be emails, either way keep them and if you really want to show a person you care, take the time to write a personal letter, you’ll be surprised how grateful they’ll be and how good it felt to give.

“Stretch” – this bit of advice was not something I really thought about until about a year ago when my IT band flared up and it felt like some of the worse pain I had ever been in. We do eventually start to get a little older but stretching has made a world of difference and I find I’m able to do more than I use to, so stretching, do it.

“Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your life,
the most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives,
some of the most interesting 40 year olds I know still don’t.” -Just don’t waste your life doing nothing and don’t be dependent upon your parents or others, do make sure to provide for yourself along the way, you’ll feel better about it.

“Get plenty of calcium.”

“Be kind to your knees, you’ll miss them when they’re gone.”

“Maybe you’ll marry, maybe you won’t,
maybe you’ll have children, maybe you won’t,
maybe you’ll divorce at 40,
maybe you’ll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary,
what ever you do, don’t congratulate yourself too much
or berate yourself either – your choices are half chance,
so are everybody else’s.” –Looking at this I tell myself over and over again remember everything happens for a reason, you’re life is headed in the direction it’s suppose to and you’ll get your answers one day it just might not be today or even tomorrow, but one day.

“Enjoy your body, use it every way you can,
don’t be afraid of it, or what other people think of it,
it’s the greatest instrument you’ll ever own.” A reminder to once again love yourself for who you are not what someone thinks you should be.

“Dance,even if you have nowhere to do it but in your own living room.” and when you have friends to do it with you in the living room, even better.

“Read the directions, even if you don’t follow them.
Do NOT read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly.”

“Get to know your parents, you never know when they’ll be gone for good.” -I once read that while we were busy growing up our parents were also growing old, it’s true, so enjoy the time you have with them, find out about their past and the families past so you don’t question who you are.

“Be nice to your siblings, they’re your best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.” -Living at home together you might fight, but one day (hopefully) you’ll grow up and get along, sometimes they will end up being your best friends. But regardless they’re family and again, you never know, what if tomorrow never comes.

“Understand that friends come and go, but with a precious few you should hold on.

Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle because the older you get,
the more you need the people you knew when you were young.” -Friendships will come and go and that’s okay. Sometimes certain friendships were only meant to help us through different parts of our lives or you theirs. Do your best to know your real friends and rid yourself of the fake.

“Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard;
live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft.” –I can’t say I’ve ever even visited either of these places, but I say you don’t necessarily have to live here to feel like you lived.

“Travel.” – Adventures in life are important, in my opinion more important than possessions. Memories can last a lifetime.

“Accept certain inalienable truths, prices will rise, politicians will philander,
you too will get old and when you do you’ll fantasize that when you were young
prices were reasonable, politicians were noble and children respected their elders.” -Everyone feels this way and perhaps you will too one day if you haven’t already.

“Respect your elders.” -Remember respect is earned not given…but at the end of the day you should always show respect.

“Don’t expect anyone else to support you.
Maybe you have a trust fund, maybe you’ll have a wealthy spouse;
but you never know when either one might run out.”

“Don’t mess too much with your hair, or by the time you’re 40, it will look 85.” -same goes for many things, take care of yourself in general.

“Be careful whose advice you buy, but, be patient with those who supply it.
Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal,
wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it’s worth.” –We will all live and learn but accept some of the advice along the way like this song, because learning from others mistakes, others lessons, can definitely be helpful along the way. But as the essay goes if you take one bit of advice it’s the last one…

“But trust me on the sunscreen.”